Okay, so the disrespect thing. One of our neighbors is 16, and he likes to hang out with Bro and Dreamer. We came home one night to no one home, but one of the neighbor's bowls just sitting on the sofa...???? WTF??? We had also told them that all-nighters were not okay (came downstairs a couple times to video game happiness at 6 in the morning) and said neighbor had to be out by 1 am if we were in bed. Which is fair. We pointed out that it is us paying the electric bill, plus, after some of DH's pain meds went missing, we don't really trust any of the young'uns right now.
We asked them all about the meds...of course NO ONE did it. Caught neighbor at the house still after 3 am the other night. Don't piss off a hormonal woman. Our food bill has more than doubled. DH's favorite knife is mysteriously broken..."It was like that when we took it upstairs to play with it." Umm, no it wasn't, and it's not a damn toy, and it's not yours! The quarters we save for laundry are all gone, and I brought THAT up...not even an apology. Just a kind of blank look.
They spent last night at Frog's. I imagine we are the bad ones now. Whatever. I went in their room to get laundry, and realized that none of the clothes she borrowd from me were in there...so WHERE DID THEY GO??? So I am not doing theirs. They aren't home, they spend all day in their room, and have been completely unthankful lately for having a place to stay.
In my laundry search, I did find a half gallon container sitting in the litter box...full of PISS. Seriously? The bathroom is 6 steps away. I left it in front of their door for whenever they come home. Bro gets a little money from working with DH a couple nights a week...they can pay for laundry. Time to grow up.
Oh, she might be Pg. Not that they told us that. But she told our other neighbor who felt I had a right to know. I don't know what to believe. They won't hold still long enough to talk, probably because I have been a little bitchy. But don't disrespect me, lie to me, and sure as shittin, don't do it when I am severely hormonal and going through a lot of emotional shit.
What did we do wrong??? Dear god, let me raise my child/children better.
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Yikes! I think it is time for them to find another place to stay! You have been WAY more tolerant than I would be - even without the hormones.
ReplyDeleteBig hugs hon - I hope they straighten their shit up or get out!
Genmeister, I think it's time to show the kids the door. Yes, their story is sad, but how much of it is actually true? (Especially given the other stories they've told you lately.) These are people who are mooching off you, lying to you, stealing from you, and generally disrespecting you. That's the last thing you guys need right now, and not a good environment for the babe(s), either. You have a kind and generous heart, and unfortunately, some people will take advantage of that for as long as you let them. It's not you, it's them--for real. And frankly, enabling them is about the worst thing you could do for them. Change the locks and put their stuff on the lawn. Take care of YOU right now, hon.
ReplyDeleteHmmm so are they now looking for a new home? They sure should be. If that was my home and me they were disrespecting so much, they'd be coming home to bags packed and waiting for them on the front verge.
ReplyDeleteSeriously, you don't need this shit right now. Don't care who's children they are K.I.C.K. T.H.E.M. O.U.T and do it now!
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Damn, that doesn't sound like fun at all. Hope things get better.
ReplyDeleteI'm confused - who is living with you? Step-children? Whoever they are, they need to go! You have way too much going on to have those kind of things happening. Either sit them down and have a heart-to-heart or give them tough love. Either way, sounds like they need to learn some serious manners.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you are way more tolerant than I am. They would have been out the door the SECOND the meds went missing. I don't tolerate thieves.
ReplyDeleteYou certainly have a lot of patience because that is some disrespectful stuff going on. I hope you can find a way to handle the situation in a way that you and your husband are comfortable with.
ReplyDeleteI have yo agree with the other girls here, time for the young'uns to hit the road! Enough is enough!
ReplyDeleteUm...yeah...don't let the door hit you in the ...
ReplyDeleteOh my gosh....I don't even know where to start...
ReplyDeleteyep, time for them to go,...no matter how kind and open your heart and home have been (and I'm like you ,,,I understand) but enough is enough.....
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oh and you are going to be an amazing mom...never doubt your ability there.....you have everything it takes to be a GOOD MOM.
Don't take any crap lovely lady. You deserve better than that.
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ReplyDeleteWow... my opinion for what it's worth, is that you have the patience of a saint. But even saint's have limits. If they aren't appreciating the gifts of a home, support, caring... then maybe it's time for them to move on. You have gone above and beyond, and it sounds like they are just out to take advantage of you.
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