Thursday, January 26, 2012

Modern Family

I have talked about the fact that a sperm-brother's mom contacted me a couple of months ago and we are now in contact on FB.  Well, she has also found a couple others and so as of last night, we are in contact with 3!!! of P's half-brothers!

All are older, and as far as we know, there are at least 5 other children.  I think it's funny that at this point we only know of boys.  Pretty strong male sperm going on there! (Note: of our 3 viable embies, 2 are female, 1 male).

Anyway, I thought I would introduce you to them!  No last names, but some photos of the boys.  So, without further ado...

Meet Kel - he is 11 years old.  As far as I can tell, he shares the ears, crazy eyebrows, and cheeks.  P looks sooooo much like him.  The fact that he has the same dark hair helps.  (The dark hair is from the moms.)  I just met him this week!  I got the friend request about a week ago.  His mom messaged me from his account on FB last night!  Actually, I had to check this morning to make sure I hadn't dreamt that as I was half asleep when I read it, LOL.

Meet Jack!  He is 10 years and 1 week older than P.  And when I showed my mom one of the baby pics, she asked when I took it....Again, we have the ears, and crazy eyebrows.  They also share that cowlick on the right side of the head.

Meet Turner!  He is 7 years old.  He is the first boy we found.  Once again - eyebrows, ears, cowlick.  Apparently those genetics are STRONG on the donor's side!  And in Turner's case, they share the cheeks as well.  What is interesting, is that P looks SO much like me, but when I see his brothers, I see all these other features that are absolutely not mine.

It is incredibly strange for us to see parts of P on these other boys' faces.  When you choose to use donor gametes, you know very well that there are other children out there sharing DNA...but much like being pregnant and giving birth, the reality sometimes doesn't hit you until there is physical proof in front of you.  Until the theoretical becomes reality. 

We are a modern family who used modern science to make a modern child.  I think my ancestors are rolling in their graves.  LOL.  I love my life sometimes.


  1. How fascinating! I won't get to see this as our donor is strictly anonymous - which is a shame for me and the babies. x

  2. Wow, just wow. That last paragraph about it not hitting you until there's physical proof really hit home for me. I have asked Tim what his thoughts are about the very real possibility that Cole and Bella probably have half-siblings out there in the world and he refuses to discuss it. I honestly don't know what I'd do if one of those parents were to contact us.

  3. This is just so incredible. It somehow makes the world just feel more connected.


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