Tuesday, May 1, 2012

He Dropped A Bomb On Me

2 days ago we received a check from the US Government for $10k.  For Hubby.  Seems it is the back SS pay from when he first applied a few years ago.  Ummm, yeah.

The same day, Hubby found this listing for a mobile home close to the old 'hood.  Here is an outside photo.  We are going to go look at it today or tomorrow.

Yes, that is a big gorgeous tree, a yard, already fenced, and a storage shed.  What????  Yeah.

But, this is not the bombshell.  

Last night Hubby left me a voicemail (I missed the call) that he is now on board with an out of state move.  


That was the sound of the crickets that I heard in my head after he said that.

2 months ago I would have jumped on that.  Now...I am hesitant.  For a few reasons...like my mental health issues and starting therapy.  But we are really running out of options here.  Yes, my family is here.  But the jobs aren't.  Not the kind I like.  But therapy...and family...

I honestly don't know what the best choice for us as a family is right now.  I feel like I can't make decisions right now.  Other than what's for dinner.  You should see me trying to get dressed.  That is horrendous.  That's how hard decisions are right now.  

And yet...we all of a sudden have a couple choices.  What's best?  I have no idea.  None.  Nada.  


  1. Personally, I would do nothing. Which might be what your therapist advises as well. I'd shove that money in the bank, keep the house idea on the backburner and get yourself sorted out first. To do that, family and a network of friends is crucial. Therapy is necessary as you know too, but that can be found wherever you go... dependent on coverage of course. So yeah, I'd sit tight for a short time (like 1-3 months) get yourself sorted a bit better and then move forward. In the meantime, whatever you do, we're here to support and help as much as possible. Sending hugs to you all!

  2. I say, take some time for things to stabilize a bit. Do the therapy. Stay where you are. Skip moving across country or buying property for the time being. Now probably isn't the best time to make major life-changing decisions, which are stressful for anyone, but particularly for someone who's been through as much as you have lately. These decisions don't have to be made at this second--they will be there next week, next month, and next year.

  3. My advice is always to not rush into anything. Buying a home, moving, etc. If he finds a job out of state - then you look into moving. Right now, I think you are right in staying where you are. You have support which you need right now. You're starting to get help. Once you are at a point where you can manage and feel able to make decisions its the time to make them! ((HUGS))

  4. Hoping and praying you find a decision that is perfect (or close to it) for your family.

  5. Penny pinch, coupon, sales, hand-me-downs, eat the same food 5 nights in a row and make that $ stretch. I think you getting the help you need is most important and when your in a mentally stable state you can move outta state. Moving far from family and friends when your not in a good place isn't going to help you. Just my thoughts.

  6. Thinking of you through this tough time. I've been reading along but lousy about commenting. Sending you lots of good vibes. xoxoxoxoxoxo


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